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Day 49 – :-)

Happy birthday to me 🙂

I’ve had a lovely day – thank you everyone

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Lisa

Day 48 – Peace, no matter what

Today I had a long talk with a friend I’ve made over here. While we were talking, I told her a story that shocked her a little.

You see, she has been watching Frans & I over the past 40 odd days and she sees a couple who adore each other and get along really well.

What she didn’t see though was the disagreement that we had a couple of nights ago. We rarely argue, but this time it really was a doozy.

Frans refuses to engage in a fight. When he senses that things are heading in that direction, he just walks away. He will not get into it. When he does this, my already angry state just blows up – it REALLY irritates me. I know however, that trying to pursue the matter will lead to a place that I never want to go.

So, he walked out of the room and I turned away and wrapped myself up in my duvet, crying my eyes out.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with a disagreement – we’re all bound to have them just because we’re different and have opposing views on things. It’s natural. The difference is how you deal with it!

Long ago, we decided that we would do whatever it took to keep the peace in our marriage. We do this in three ways:

  1. We know how difficult it can be to say ‘sorry’. So we’ve agreed on a sign that substitutes for actually saying the words, but still conveys the feeling. Once either one of us gives the other one a soft punch on the arm, it’s the sign that we’re sorry and that the argument is now over. We’ve agreed that whenever either one of us does this, we’ll make peace and not bring up the argument again.
  2. We have made a pact that we will NEVER let an argument last overnight – it has to be settled before we go to sleep.
  3. It makes no difference which one of us makes the peace, as long as it’s made. It’s not about being ‘right’, it’s about being kind and keeping the peace.

Believe me that this is not easy to do when I’m angry. But, you know what, making the decision before the event, somehow makes it easier to stick to it when the chips are down.

So, I lay there steaming for a while and realised that an amazing thing has happened over the years. Because of the decision to never let an argument last overnight, my ability to stay angry and offended has shortened substantially and believe me, I’ve had a great deal of practice :-)!!!!!

As the emotion subsided I decided that I would go and make the peace.  It doesn’t have to be something I ‘feel’ like doing, now it’s about making a decision to make peace, so that our marriage can be safe.

I’m so grateful that we’ve learned this lesson during our marriage. It’s been a lifesaver more than once.

Have you got a tip that helps your relationships stay good? Please share with us if you do. 🙂

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Lisa

Day 47 – A.R.K

A- Acts of

R- Random

K- Kindness

I heard this phrase a couple of years ago and it has stuck with me ever since. I’ve tried it out over the years and all I can say is that doing acts of random kindness is such a cool way to live.

I love it when someone holds the door open for me because my hands are full or lets me use their unused beach towel because I forgot to bring mine. They’re little things, but the important element is that they come from a place of kindness and consideration. It’s the most wonderful feeling when someone does something selfless for you, just so that you’ll be blessed.

Equally wonderful is doing something selfless for someone else, just so that they can be blessed. It puts a big smile on your face knowing that you’ve helped them – just to be kind.

Wouldn’t it be fab to start looking out for opportunities to perform Acts of Random Kindness everywhere you go? Not only will you help make someone else’s life a little better, but you’ll do the same for yourself too.

🙂

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Day 46 – Yarn Over

I bet you’re confused right?

A ‘yarn over’ is the term for a certain type of stitch in Crochet!

One of the things I wanted to be able to do during this Sabbatical was to learn a new hobby. Something that I could do that would still be productive, but help me to relax at the same time.

I researched all sorts of things and crocheting looked so cool. I have a couple of tops that are crocheted and I’ve always wanted to have some made just the way I like them. Solution – make them myself.

So, today I finally picked up the crochet hook and yarn that I’d bought back home, searched for ‘how to crochet’ on Youtube and watched the instructional videos.

This was my first attempt. It was supposed to be a square, but I don’t think I quite ‘got’ the last stitch concept until I realised that it was turning into more of a triangle than a square :-). I then tried to pick up the last stitch of the row and managed a semblance of a square on the top.

Scientific test tube?

Then I went back and re-watched the video, pausing it at every step of the part I wasn’t getting right and then I made this one.

The next try

Look at how intricate and beautiful the symmetry is

…and all they are is just a series of knots in some string. SO cool!

So, with just these tools, I’ve found a new hobby that enables me to sit and create something while giving my mind a bit of rest from achieving. 🙂

Crochet hooks, yarn and a piece of work using the ‘yarn over’ stitch.

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Question of the Day

What hobby can you take up, or continue, that can help you relax? 

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Lisa

Day 45 – The Grace Place

It was so good to get back to a place where God is so loved. We had a lovely morning, worshipping with the folks at ‘The Grace Place’ church in Stuart, Florida.

Beautiful big building with separate wings for all ages and ministries

Lovely, welcoming Reception Area

Fabulous worship

Sermon series – 7 things God loves

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Another Florida ‘Essential’ (OK, maybe not essential 🙂

Man, look at the shock absorbers on this one!

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Day 44 – What a cool day at the Beach

God just works in amazing ways.

There’s a lady named Julie who looks after all of the maintenance and cleaning for the owner of the condo we’re staying in. I had spoken to her on the day before we moved in and then met her and her partner Karl when they came to install some screens on the windows.  They came back earlier in the week to look at a light switch that’s been dodgy and while Karl & Frans were looking at it, Julie and I started talking.

Turns out that she’s been a Christian for 4 years and Karl for a few months. Well, when we found out that we were both Christians, we REALLY started talking. God has changed both of our lives in such phenomenal ways that we were just sharing story after story.

When they were just about to leave, she invited us to a beach party that her church, The Grace Place (what an amazing name huh?), was holding on Stuart Beach, today.

We got there and they’d set up their amps and instruments. The BBQ was fired up and all the tables laid out for lunch. It was great to be amongst others who love God too.

The little huts under which you can have a picnic and a BBQ at Stuart Beach

…with a fab jungle gym for the kids to play on

The Worship Team praying before starting their live ‘set’

We had a lovely morning and brought one of our friends that we’ve made while we’ve been here, along for the morning too. We all just sat and talked and swapped stories, ate hot dogs and hamburgers and swam to our heart’s content.

What an absolutely cool way to spend a Saturday morning. Thank You LORD. 🙂

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Another ‘Florida Essential’

The massive cooler box we used to bring watermelon and water for everyone

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Lisa

Day 43 – Friday 13th – Where do superstitions come from anyway?

Superstitions – a funny phenomenon aren’t they?

According to Dictionary.com the definition of the word is:

Superstition: a belief or notion, not based on reason or knowledge, in or of the ominous significance of a particular thing,circumstance, occurrence, proceeding, or the like.

Some common ones are:

  • Red sky at night, sailors’ delight; red sky at morning, sailors take warning
  • It’s bad luck to walk under a ladder
  • Knock on wood
  • An itchy hand means money’s coming (or leaving)
  • See a penny, pick it up, all the day you’ll have good luck
  • Heads for good luck, tails for bad luck
  • Carry a rabbit’s foot for luck
  • Drop a knife/spoon/fork, and company will come
  • Finding a four-leaf clover is lucky
  • Break a mirror, bring seven-years’ bad luck
  • Step on a crack, break your mother’s back

I am so grateful that I don’t believe in superstitions, but it’s really interesting to see a list like the one above just so I can be sure 🙂

This is a picture of my beautiful little black cat. He’s been with us for 14 years and only ever brought us joy and love (unless you count the multiple birds and mice we’ve had over the years 🙂

Check for your self and see what baseless superstitions you can get rid of today.

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Question of the Day

What beliefs that you hold are just superstitions instead?

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Lisa