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Day 55 – The Little Things

Isn’t it funny how little things can have such a huge impact on our lives?

There are tons of little things that affect us and here is a selection of the little things that happened to us today…

Little things that make you happy

– We woke up this morning and the sun was shining which really lifted our spirits because it’s been raining for days. A little thing that brightened our day

Little things that make you laugh

– Frans went swimming in the sea and he found this old hat. It had become home to hundreds of little things who had made a whole new home out of it. As he brought it out, a gentleman walked past and said a little thing ‘I wonder what happened to the guy’ 🙂

Little things that drive you nuts

– We came back from the pool and heard a little ‘beep’. 30 seconds later we heard another one. And then another. Turns out the battery is going flat in the smoke detector but it can’t be fixed until tomorrow morning as it’s connected to the fire system in the whole building. It’s a little noise, but it’s causing big irritation

Little things that make you smile

– A piece of Key Lime Pie – the bestest, most scrumptioustest pie on earth 🙂

Little things that quench your thirst

– Watermelon – sweet, juicy and delicious

Little things that warm your heart

– There was a youngster surfing all by himself this morning. A group of boys were surfing close to him and the lone youngster kept on looking at them wistfully, just wanting to join in. He fell off his board when a particularly big wave hit and one of the other boys held his board for him until he got his footing back. Simple kindness and inclusion – just amazing.

Little things that help you

– It’s been quite humid today and the fan we got from Walmart for a mere $17 has kept us nice and cool

Watch out for the ‘little things’ that happen all around you every day. They really can make a big difference.

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Sleep well and see you tomorrow

Lisa

Day 48 – Peace, no matter what

Today I had a long talk with a friend I’ve made over here. While we were talking, I told her a story that shocked her a little.

You see, she has been watching Frans & I over the past 40 odd days and she sees a couple who adore each other and get along really well.

What she didn’t see though was the disagreement that we had a couple of nights ago. We rarely argue, but this time it really was a doozy.

Frans refuses to engage in a fight. When he senses that things are heading in that direction, he just walks away. He will not get into it. When he does this, my already angry state just blows up – it REALLY irritates me. I know however, that trying to pursue the matter will lead to a place that I never want to go.

So, he walked out of the room and I turned away and wrapped myself up in my duvet, crying my eyes out.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with a disagreement – we’re all bound to have them just because we’re different and have opposing views on things. It’s natural. The difference is how you deal with it!

Long ago, we decided that we would do whatever it took to keep the peace in our marriage. We do this in three ways:

  1. We know how difficult it can be to say ‘sorry’. So we’ve agreed on a sign that substitutes for actually saying the words, but still conveys the feeling. Once either one of us gives the other one a soft punch on the arm, it’s the sign that we’re sorry and that the argument is now over. We’ve agreed that whenever either one of us does this, we’ll make peace and not bring up the argument again.
  2. We have made a pact that we will NEVER let an argument last overnight – it has to be settled before we go to sleep.
  3. It makes no difference which one of us makes the peace, as long as it’s made. It’s not about being ‘right’, it’s about being kind and keeping the peace.

Believe me that this is not easy to do when I’m angry. But, you know what, making the decision before the event, somehow makes it easier to stick to it when the chips are down.

So, I lay there steaming for a while and realised that an amazing thing has happened over the years. Because of the decision to never let an argument last overnight, my ability to stay angry and offended has shortened substantially and believe me, I’ve had a great deal of practice :-)!!!!!

As the emotion subsided I decided that I would go and make the peace.  It doesn’t have to be something I ‘feel’ like doing, now it’s about making a decision to make peace, so that our marriage can be safe.

I’m so grateful that we’ve learned this lesson during our marriage. It’s been a lifesaver more than once.

Have you got a tip that helps your relationships stay good? Please share with us if you do. 🙂

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Lisa

Day 47 – A.R.K

A- Acts of

R- Random

K- Kindness

I heard this phrase a couple of years ago and it has stuck with me ever since. I’ve tried it out over the years and all I can say is that doing acts of random kindness is such a cool way to live.

I love it when someone holds the door open for me because my hands are full or lets me use their unused beach towel because I forgot to bring mine. They’re little things, but the important element is that they come from a place of kindness and consideration. It’s the most wonderful feeling when someone does something selfless for you, just so that you’ll be blessed.

Equally wonderful is doing something selfless for someone else, just so that they can be blessed. It puts a big smile on your face knowing that you’ve helped them – just to be kind.

Wouldn’t it be fab to start looking out for opportunities to perform Acts of Random Kindness everywhere you go? Not only will you help make someone else’s life a little better, but you’ll do the same for yourself too.

🙂

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Lisa